Spermariffic ! !

So, our adventure continues with something neither Em nor I can ever truly posses or produce in any way shape or form no matter how hard we try... sperm. The "S" word, in this case, is a good word... and a bad word. Good in that it's a necessary part of the baby-making recipe... bad in that we have to go through this whole expensive and time consuming process of finding a 'respectable' donor.
Designer baby? well, kinda. Not by our choice but at the same time, by our choice. Ironic, isn't it?
Em and I have discussed a few times if we want the donor to be 'open' or 'anonymous'. Lately most countries around the world only accept 'open' donors - therefore, there has been a shortage of donors. Why? Well, one simple reason... most men do not want 20 of 'his' children come aknocking on his door 18 or so years later. There are a few countries that allow for *both* open and anonymous. However, we are opting for an 'open' donor. We would like for our child(ren) to have the option to look up their 'father' if they have that need or desire. We do not want to deny them that right. One reason we like the cryobanks which allow for the donor to decide if they want to be 'open' or 'anonymous' is because they are not forced into it, it is their own choice. We've been lucky to 'hear' and 'read' about some of the donors and why they have chosen to be open. One example: A man just had his first child and the realization of just what a beautiful gift a child is hit him... he then realized that he wanted to help others who could not conceive a baby on their own.
He rocks. Why can't there be more giving and selfless people in the world?!

So, Em and I have asked ourselves what do we want to look for in the sperm donor. Well, since I am the one (hopefully) conceiving first - we want someone that has some characteristics and traits of Em. Recently we started noticing some (maybe all) cryobanks list the "Myers-Briggs" personality type of the donor. Cool!!! Em is an ENFP. I am an INFP. (I mostly agree with this assessment). We want a caucasian since Em is a whitey. ;) And we are looking into the background (health) of them. While we are aware this is a bit designer, if we have the 'luxury' of choosing then why shouldn't we? What we do want, most of all, is a healthy baby. We'll keep you posted on the sperm donation progress... stay tuned!
-j.